Why do you women want to waste so much money on a big wedding when you can spend it on a big honeymoon?

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  • Why do you women want to waste so much money on a big wedding when you can spend it on a big honeymoon?


Answer #1 | 11/02 2014 16:37
Why are you blaming women? Weddings are a one in a lifetime chance to have just about ALL your friends and family together at a single party. If YOU don't care about that, fine. But don't sh*t on other people for caring.
Answer #2 | 10/02 2014 12:18
We want both but for many people the wedding is more important :) The big wedding because it is meant to be the best day of our lives and we want everything to be perfect and like many of us dreamed of having since we were a little girl. The honeymoon is basically just another holiday which many couples will have done already so it is less exciting
Answer #3 | 10/02 2014 08:57
For me, it was a chance to have my whole family together, and his whole family together, and to mark our new life with a celebration for everyone we loved. Humans have always marked life changing events with celebrations. It binds us together. That doesn't mean that you have to be foolish spending the money, but to call a wedding a "waste" is to not understand the meaning that some people attach to it.
Answer #4 | 10/02 2014 15:17
I don't think anyone wants to waste money, and no bride plans a wedding with the intention of "wasting" money. To them it's money well spent. You could also ask "why do men "waste" money on shaving products? They could just grow out their beard for free?" Or "Why do people 'waste' money on eating out at restaurants? They could just make their own food at home for half the cost." Different people value different things, and have different reasons for those values. I'm sure you do not want to be judged for your values, so don't judge others for their.
Answer #5 | 11/02 2014 15:47
" You Women " ? Huh ? You have a long way to go before you can enjoy the company of A woman .
Answer #6 | 11/02 2014 04:46
As a couple, we chose to have a traditional big wedding, and no honeymoon! It was more important for us to have a wonderful celebration with family and friends.
Answer #7 | 10/02 2014 19:44
why the big honey moon when you can get a house instead?
Answer #8 | 10/02 2014 15:38
I don't tell people how they're supposed to spend their money.
Answer #9 | 10/02 2014 08:39
Or have all three? I didn't have to make any compromises at all. Also, people evaluate things differently from one another. If you're going through life expecting everyone to view things the way YOU do, you're going to have some serious wake-up calls at some point.
Answer #10 | 10/02 2014 08:12
Because guys and or families let them get away with it. No one else really has a say
Answer #11 | 10/02 2014 07:43
Or on a down payment on a lovely home for your new family. That seems like a much better use of $20,000 to $50,000, or whatever brides are spending these days. I blame this on the rise of the Disney princesses as role models for young American females. I would prefer to sock the money away for a rainy day. Young couples really need a solid emergency fund, more than they need the memory of a big blowout party.
Answer #12 | 10/02 2014 07:40
Au contraire my innocent little friend. They want the big wedding and the big honeymoon. Are you in for a rude awakening.
Answer #13 | 10/02 2014 07:41
Because of the dress lol
Answer #14 | 10/02 2014 07:47
The wedding is a one time event. She's about to say her vows and completely anchor herself to this man in front of his and her family who are there to join in in the celebration of this big moment in her life. The honeymoon is the vacation afterwards for the happily married bride and groom to continue rejoicing. In a way, you two will be doing that for the rest of your lives. Vacationing for time alone together is hopefully going to happen a few more times in your life. Along with that is the urge to make her fairytale moment come true. All those ideas shes been going over in her head since her teenage years. Everything has to be marvelous and perfect. She has to make an impression in both families. She has to cater to their needs so that she can thank them properly for sharing the best moment of her life with her. There is a lot of meaning behind a wedding. Let her have her dreams come true. She hopefully only has this chance once :)
Answer #15 | 10/02 2014 07:49
Every little girl dreams of her wedding. TV, pop culture and marketing has turned weddings into a very big business. Brides now feel they have to keep up with the Jones. It's unfortunate and a big waste of money or a 5 hour party. After all, it's about the marriage, not the party. With the average cost of a wedding costing more than 20k, most couples start their marriage in debt. My thinking is, if you have 20k to spend on a wedding, you have 20k that can be better spent on a down payment for a house. Honeymoons, I don't feel are a waste of time providing they are not too extravagant. A couple needs time together away from the day to day distractions.
Answer #16 | 10/02 2014 08:13
For the same reason that some people wouldn't dream of spending a lot of money on a big honeymoon, but would rather put it toward a new house. Everyone's different and to each, his own.
Answer #17 | 10/02 2014 08:17
Why? I believe it all started with Daddy/Daughter dances. A whole night for Daddy to make his little girl feel special as an 8 year old translates to her wanting a princess wedding 20 years later.
Answer #18 | 10/02 2014 08:17
I'm not even sure, it just seems to be about a social standard. When my husband and I got engaged, we wanted to elope and then have family and friends come out to dinner, in a rented restaurant lounge or something like that. When our parents heard our plan, they got upset and insisted on a big grand wedding "because it's a once in a lifetime event". We ended up going along with their plan (hey, they paid! whatever!) but in the end it didn't feel like our style. I would've much rather had the money they spent on such a big event gifted to us. We would've gone on an awesome honeymoon like Ireland or Jamaica, rather than the poconos (because that's what we could afford), or we'd be making a down payment on our first house right now.

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