What do I do about my best friend who is always with her boyfriend?

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  • What do I do about my best friend who is always with her boyfriend?


Answer #1 | 23/12 2013 17:22
Look friends and friendship change just as you do as an individual. You have to realize that her priorities are changing. She now has a boyfriend and although I'm sure she still cares about you and has enjoyed your time together she now chooses to spend her time with this guy. We all have been guilty of putting our friends/friendships on the back burner when we start dating someone, it happens. It isn't easy on the friend, I've had it done to me a number of times too, just wait until your friends start getting married and having kids, things really change but you have to go with the flow. I think you need to accept that things have changed between you two and enjoy the memories you have and when this relationship ends, her and her boyfriend, that doesn't mean you have to give up everything for her "like you use to" because you have moved on with your life too. You don't have to like this guy nor he you, but you two should be respectful of each other when your paths cross. If your friend invites you to do something with her and her boyfriend, just tell her that you'd love to spend time with her but because you and her boyfriend don't seem to get along, you'd rather not and then ask her when she is available to do something together. You are doing nothing wrong not wanting to spend time with him. Also, don't let him boss you around and tell you what you can or can't do, so what if HE gets mad that's his problem not yours. Whether or not he gets mad doesn't effect you unless you let it, besides you don't want to be around him anyway, but I have to say I feel tweeting is really stupid to begin with and why you'd want to tweet about your time with a friend is beyond me. If you want to tweet about your time just with your friend then do it, provided your friend doesn't mind, you know what I mean. I'm a rather private person and I don't want people knowing what I'm doing or who I'm with unless I tell them, not someone else sharing my business, you get me. If your friend doesn't mind, tweet away if he gets mad ignore him. why don't you block his number.... so he can't text or email you, I would and right away. If your friend was sick or not, why don't you CALL her and TALK to her and if you don't reach her leave a voice mail. Although texting can be concienient, when you are having issues or having issues with someone (and other reasons) texting is lazy and very impersonal. If YOU really were concerned about someone, you call them it shows more of an effort and concern. Don't use the fact that she is with her boyfriend to not invite her to do something. She is a big girl and can make her own decisions. Make an effort and CALL her and say "hey I'd love to see you how about lunch (or whatever) the two of us on (date/time), I can pick you up if you want" and see what she says. If she says that she has plans that day then tell her "ok when is good for you?", put it back on her. You can be upset because you miss your time with her, but don't be mad at her for spending time with her boyfriend. Things are changing and you just have to accept that you aren't going to see and or talk to her like you use to, but you are still friends.
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