was I wrong to throw my 19 yr old son out of my house for not following 1 house rule?

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  • was I wrong to throw my 19 yr old son out of my house for not following 1 house rule?


Answer #1 | 28/12 2013 22:51
Please relax, as an 18 year old guy, I am saddened by the way you treat your son. He's 19 not 6, if he wants to come home at 4 am let him. As long he doesn't come home drunk or high or doesn't get into trouble then let him be. please an thank you.
Answer #2 | 28/12 2013 22:58
Okay you answered my question so I'm answering urs. You are nowhere In the wrong for what you did. Don't care how grown he is, if he's living under ur roof, eating all of ur food, and is not paying u anything, u were nowhere in the wrong.! He needs to learn that when he is truly a man, then he can come gone whenever he pleases. If I were his mom, if I hAd to tell him Once, he would be out the door! U did nothing wrong but teach him a lesson in life. Don't beat urself up over it, because u love by letting go sometimes. And just because he has a job means nothing, it's still ur home!
Answer #3 | 28/12 2013 22:55
I don't think you were wrong for being upset at him, but I feel you could have been more understanding. This women is probably very important to him and he wanted to make her happy. He did disobey you, but he's obviously old enough to make his own decisions. Kicking him out might have been too much, but what you do need is some real talk, not arguments and fights.
Answer #4 | 28/12 2013 23:11
I'm just 22 and don't have family of my own yet. But honestly, i think that what you did is a wrong approach. I also don't understand what "hard love" is, or if it's even applicable to his age (19). You said it yourself, he's a good "kid". He's not kid anymore. Come on, don't let it break your relationship with your son. It's Christmas. Go talk to him. And apologize. Explain your side but LISTEN to him as well. HE IS A GOOD SON AND YOU'RE A GREAT MOTHER.
Answer #5 | 28/12 2013 23:38
Yes, he is over 18.
Answer #6 | 28/12 2013 22:54
My son is 28 yrs old, and lives at home. He is an adult and has been very responsible. He works full time, goes to a local college part time. I respect my son as an adult, and he told me he was going on a trip to Florida in November, and I wouldn't feel comfortable giving him permission to go anywhere. He is a grown man. He could live under my roof forever if he wanted and I dont mind. He doesn't cause me problems and I respect him. I think he respects me... and we understand each other as adults. I dont feel its necessary to give my son curfews and rules. He is to old for that. He respects me and tells me when he plans to leave or be late. I think you are treating your son like a child instead of an adult. Your making him resent you. I think you should give him some breathing room, and stop treating him like a 15 yr old. He is a man.
Answer #7 | 29/12 2013 11:22
At the end of the day, I know a lot of people are telling you that you're wrong but I don't believe you at all, your son is 19 he lives under your roof so therefore should follow any rules with in reason you set for him, he should respect these rules, I'm 17 and my mum threw me out last year when I was only 16 for personal reasons, it's actually made me a better person. It also made me and my mum so much closer as we appreciate each other much more. Your son will come around, just give it time.
Answer #8 | 29/12 2013 08:49
.......your a terrible father. Sorry to say but that's not tough love that's no love. He came home late. That's it. You are way to harsh. He could've done way worse and you kicked him out.

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