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So our divorce will be final in 5 days...?

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  • So our divorce will be final in 5 days...?


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Answer #1 | 02/01 2014 10:20
What part of "for better or for worse" did you not understand? You're leaving a marriage for no reason. If you feel guilty, good - you should. Please don't ever get married again, because no man deserves what you're putting your husband through.
Answer #2 | 02/01 2014 10:22
It is time for you to take care of you.not anyone else.Go do things you always wanted to do but didn't.Don't be in a relationship for a long time until you work thru your baggage.so you don't take it into your next relationship.Have fun.
Answer #3 | 02/01 2014 10:32
dear don't let him go just call him hold him and give your attention again married life is a gift from God hard to handel it and easy to brake it so pls better don't even think about . you still have time to save your life and his too so give his life back yes is true wife is a man life with out you he is like dead man so give your life a chance forget bad things remember good deeds ok
Answer #4 | 02/01 2014 10:41
What a shame. Don't you realize that the intense romantic love of the early years of marriage drifts off somewhat over time. The early enthusiasm of ones 20's gives way to the practical day to day concerns of kids, jobs, aging parents, finances, etc, etc, etc. You don't so much deeply "want" a spouse of 18 years as you become one with them in thought and being. He is a "great guy" and it sounds like he still loves you. How many people out there would die for that. I've been through ups and downs with my wife. Yet every time we make it through an down the ups just get better. Sometimes we have to work to keep things interesting and romantic, yet we do. Where do you see yourself in five years or ten. Do you think some guy better than your husband is just going to fall out of the sky? Are you a great catch? What about your finances now that you will have to support two households. Most divorced couples live at a lower standard of living. How about your kids now having to split their time. Of course I don't know all the details. Maybe he had an affair or maybe he has just become cold and distant. Maybe he works to many hours providing for his kids and has no time for you. I can't tell you not to do it and I certainly can't tell you how to make him feel better. But it makes me sad when people just give up for no obvious reason. "Better or worse". Does a vow mean nothing.
Answer #5 | 02/01 2014 11:33
It would be more helpful if you didn't "help" him through this. The less contact you have - the better off it will be for him. It's going to be difficult enough to get over you without you being around to "help" him through it... It's nice that you want the best for him and it is for the best to just keep contact about the kids and let him mourn the end of the marriage, heal and move on. It's too bad you didn't try some form of couples therapy and work on the marriage because the words you write make it sound like the marriage could have been saved. Long term love is a choice...not a feeling.

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