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Answer #1 | 23/12 2013 17:53
My dear friend,try to leave him at least for sometime and live with your mother. And let him struggle with all bills. He as well as you will understand,where you stand. I am of the opinion that a man has duty to earn and a wife has right to spend money what her husband spends! Otherwise there is no husband does not love his wife.
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Answer #2 | 23/12 2013 17:48
You & your husband should consider financial counseling. You are married, your bills are his bills, his bills are your bills. The money each of you earns should be use to pay for the family bills. If he does not get that or refuses to act like an adult, it might be time to cut your losses & leave.
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Answer #3 | 23/12 2013 21:20
Listen to your mother.
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Answer #4 | 23/12 2013 17:50
Why don't you try NOT paying the bills. You are expecting a child. He makes good money. What would he say to you not working? Discuss this with him. Is it correct in that you have a child plus are expecting one? You have hands full there. Time to make him be financially responsible, which by the way is not easy.
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Answer #5 | 23/12 2013 17:50
Tell him that you want all income to go into a joint checking account and for all bills to be paid out of this account. This is your condition on staying; if he refuses, you're outta there. Married couples should not have "his money" and "her money". All income is "ours" and all obligations to be paid (especially those that are obviously shared like rent, utilities and food) are "ours."
Positive: 50 %
Answer #6 | 23/12 2013 22:54
I don't understand married people cutting bills in half and paying them equally like roommates. Your husband's pay and your pay should be deposited into a joint checking account. Out of this checking account you should both be given a monthly amount of money for your own frivolous spending. I've been married 18+ years, and I've NEVER split bills equally with my husband. The payment of bills comes out of our joint checking account.
Positive: 48 %
Answer #7 | 23/12 2013 17:57
Your mom is right. If he does not understand that his wife and child are # 1, he is brain dead. MOVE ON
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Answer #8 | 24/12 2013 14:21
I'm sorry, but your situation is not clear to me. You said that your husband is now earning 3x what he earned at his last job, but you haven't stated how that compares with your salary. You also said that you're paying half of rent, utilities, daycare and food. So does that mean your husband is paying the other half? If this is a problem you haven't explained why. Is the problem that your husband is now earning a lot more money than you, but not taking on a higher percentage of the bills?
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