Should I object the wedding?

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  • Should I object the wedding?


Answer #1 | 19/12 2013 11:02
Actually, if you go, you can't object because no one even asks "does anyone object?" anymore. That only happens in movies. Even if you COULD object, it would only be for a valid legal reason such as someone in the couple being still legally married to someone else. But all of that would get found out before the wedding anyway when they went to apply for the license, so again, no place for you to object... EDIT: Your family doesn't get to decide if anyone objects. The person officiating does, and I've been to at least twenty weddings officiated by clergy of various faiths, along with weddings officiated by court commissioners and Justices of the Peace. NO. ONE. ASKS. THAT. ANYMORE.
Answer #2 | 19/12 2013 11:08
Everyone gets that option, yes. But isn't this world suppose to be moving in the direction of us human beings to NOT JUDGE others? If he hasn't had contact with anyone, why would you know so much about her? First: You don't know if she was married to good men or abusers. You don't know the reasons why the children don't live with her. She could of been married to a man with so much money, that there was no way for her to fight for the kids in court. WHY is it okay for men to re-marry and not have the kids living with him in a divorce? It's NOT. It seems if she's been divorced 3 times, then those 3 men weren't meant for her, now doesn't it? Maybe, just maybe, your cousin could be the soulmate her soul has been seeking. If people don't want to go, then they shouldn't. Let him and this gal see if this is the right thing for them to do. It's just a marriage any how. Marriages can be broken, have for many, many years. IF it makes you feel all high and Mighty to show up and object, then so be it, do it.
Answer #3 | 19/12 2013 11:07
You won't be given any opportunity to "object", so get that right out of your head right now. Secondly, if you can't go to a wedding with a clean heart, sincerely wishing the couple well, just don't go. No one will miss you.
Answer #4 | 19/12 2013 11:07
wow tough one to answer! i think that if you don't agree, you should tell your cousin either face to face or on facebook inbox, if people don't trust her as she has kids she can't see and has been married a few times i reckon they should hold the wedding plans for a bit as they have only known each other a few months, i think he should know every detail about her first. because if they get divorced, they have to split everything and that means he will lose money right? maybe thats her plan and wants his money? i don't know their full story but if it feels like the right thing for you to do, stop the wedding or just talk to him and tell him to pause the wedding for a while x
Answer #5 | 19/12 2013 11:22
You can't object. And even if you could, why would you? If your cousin is making a mistake, no amount of your trying to stop him will help. It'll only make him hate you. Edit - Are you in love with your cousin...? Because I can't see any other reason you would be so adamant about objecting to a wedding that has nothing to do with you.
Answer #6 | 19/12 2013 12:37
Politely decline or attend and be polite. You keep your opinion to yourself unless it is ASKED FOR. How would you like it if some cousin showed up to your wedding and dissed your bride at the alter in front of everyone? If you MUST meddle in something that is none of your business, voice your concerns to your cousin in person and in private BEFORE the wedding. But be prepared that you will probably ruin your relationship with your cousin.
Answer #7 | 19/12 2013 12:44
Whether you go to the wedding or not is your personal decision. None of us can make that choice for you. It's fine not to go, if you don't want to. No one is obligated to accept any invitation. If you do go, go because you care about your cousin. When this relationship falls apart, your cousin will remember that you were supportive and be more likely to come to you for additional support when he needs it most. Don't go thinking you will object. They only reasons that would be seriously considered is that the bride or groom is not legally able to marry - previously married and divorce is not final or one of them is not mentally sound to make an adult decision. You will not be taken seriously if you object just because you think the bride is wrong for your cousin. I understand that you care for your cousin and want what's best for him. But he's an adult who can make his own choices, right or wrong. You really have no power except to just be there and be supportive.
Answer #8 | 19/12 2013 18:41
no stay home and stay out of it not your business
Answer #9 | 19/12 2013 14:03
He doesn't need his family's permission or blessing, so there's nothing any of you can do about his decision to marry this woman. Who he marries is his decision to make, not yours. And, if he's cut himself off from your lunatic family and you learned of the engagement via Facebook, what makes you think you'll even be invited to the wedding?

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