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Please HELP ME my moms an alcoholic?!?

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Answer #1 | 02/01 2014 19:32
This should tell everyone to never drink and be an idiot like your mum.
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Answer #2 | 03/01 2014 08:57
Kaylee, Being the child of an alcoholic is not a easy path to follow, as you already know. You have to accept that you can not change or cure her. That is something she will have to do on her own. What you do have control of is your own life going forward. You are very likely to end up just as she is. Don't allow that to happen to you. Your 15 now and in high school, don't quit school and don't follow the same path as your mother. This means you are going to have to lean on other influences in your life that are interested in your well being, like an aunt, uncle, grandparents, etc. Make sure you have a good connection with an elder to guide you when things get tough. If none of these things are available, you can join a church and you will find somebody to fill the void. In the meantime you only have a few years remaining in HS and after that you can get a student loan and go to college. You don't have to live in her shadow, find your own way and don't ever allow yourself to be like her. When you are married and happy (as you will be) you will realize that not everyone has perfect parents (in fact these days your lucky to have one) So your not as alone as you think. I know you love her and you want her to change, but the truth is, you only have control of yourself. So keep it that way and move on. This AA saying can also relate to you moving forward, keep it in mind when your starting to lose control. God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I can not change, to change the things i can, and the wisdom to know the difference. though this is a religious quote and you may not be religious, it has everything you need to move forward in your life and the wisdom in that statement is imperative to you moving ahead in your life. Though your mother may not take the wisdom that has been given, that doesn't mean you will do the same. Right now the odds are against you, your going to have to fight back and not allow this to bring you down or change who you are going to become... which is not her.. You mom either will or won't fix her problem, but that's out of your control and even though it hurts, there is very little you can do. GL and keep your eyes focused on your future, even if it means not looking back.
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