Me and my mom having been getting along, should I move to my dads?

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  • Me and my mom having been getting along, should I move to my dads?


Answer #1 | 20/12 2013 05:56
You don't have to talk to your mom right now. But maybe you need to do so when you have your dad present. people with that type of personality hate to be exposed so not only do the impossible (listen to you ) but they also are on their best behavior when others are around them. I also had a terrible relationship with my mom growing up, but unlike you i had no father thus nowhere to turn to. If you take your grievances to her with your dad on your arm and she doesn't change after he leaves, then you should consider moving in with your father and see if things get better. I'm going to be honest with you, sometimes things never get better and you may find that you and your mom have such a toxic relationship that you can love her from a distance but that is all. And don't beat yourself up over that, it's fine. She's the adult and the parent and she needs to do better. Also, your mom should be willing to listen to you and help you resolve your issues and answer your questions but she in no ways is supposed to be like your best friend. She is supposed to be a parent.
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Answer #2 | 20/12 2013 05:39
Talk to your mom. That is the only way you will ever be able to work things out. If you just leave her and go to your dad's you're just running away from your problems and running from them will never solve them. Take things slow and if she tries to argue just don't argue back and walk away. Maybe she will come to you and realize what she is doing after that.
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Answer #3 | 20/12 2013 05:45
Why don't you call your dad on the phone when you know he's not busy and have a chat with him. Maybe you can visit him on the weekend and tell him what's going on. Good luck and I wish the best for you.
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Ce Eshelman, LMFT | 14/11 2016 04:42
Rule of thumb: Always try to work it out before making a snap decision. Moms are important and our relationship, good or bad, goes with us throughout our lifespan. Maybe take some time to sit down and work it out. Maybe invite your Dad to help or an Auntie or maybe a best friend of your mother to give some perspective while you talk it through. Sometimes it is easier than you think. Of course, sometimes it is hard. Hang in there. It's worth the effort.
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