Is this emotional abuse?

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  • Is this emotional abuse?


Answer #1 | 14/01 2014 10:01
I think you need to think seriously about about what kind of .future you will have if you carry on living just to please your husband..No one should live like that I cannot imagine why you would even want to stay with him .happy families are not always two parent and a child I found that out myself when I was in a similar situation to yours You need to get legal help and away from him.
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Answer #2 | 14/01 2014 12:01
You don't want your daughter to learn that she is suppose to arrange any and all aspects of herself in a constant panic to please a man who rules by his displeasure. If your daughter is old enough to be in a dance company that matters... she's old enough to understand a great deal more than you are giving her credit for. Your husband wants out. He's told you that in every possible way. He's made up dozens of excuses and you've done your darnest to make each one of his reasons go away. And then another reason pops up. I agree, your husband doesn't care about your feelings and doesn't want to hear anymore about them. Waste of time. You aren't breaking up anything, dear. Let go of him. As soon as you let go of him, he will stop pretending.. whichever way it is. Just let go. Let go of changing everything about you that you possibly can, let go of thinking that it is your duty to try to keep your husband interested in a marriage he is zero invested in. Just let it go. Let go of a man who isn't willing to love you. He holds no value anymore. Your daughter needs to learn that No One is suppose to spend their lives attempting to be malleable clay for someone else's whim and wildhair. No one should stay in a relationship in which they hold no worth. Not a wife, not a woman, not a mother, not a man. Love as a destructive force is a lie.
Positive: 50 %
Answer #3 | 14/01 2014 12:17
Why are you doing so much to rearrange your life to suit him? If he truly loved you then he would accept you as you are; and if you truly loved yourself, you would show this controlling idiot the door the next time he suggests any changes. js :/
Positive: 50 %
Answer #4 | 14/01 2014 19:26
You act like a doormat, people will walk all over you.
Positive: 50 %
Answer #5 | 14/01 2014 10:27
In your shoes I'd choose to quit the relationship permanently. It looks like he suffers from Bipolar disorder. It's not just about the serious emotional abuse you've suffered but also what your daughter has witnessed. As is, she will grow up in the belief that relationships like this are normal and it could well affect her own future relationships regarding her trust of men. Personally I suggest you get out of this once and for all, but first discuss it with your children's protection service to see what services are available to help you.
Positive: 42.857142857143 %
Answer #6 | 14/01 2014 09:42
"It's been 9 months of progress and love." WTF??? Calling you garbage, worthless, ignorant, idiot, etc. - you call that progress and love??? What is wrong with your self-esteem???
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Answer #7 | 16/01 2014 08:34
What a difficult situation, coconuttea, for you and your family. Do you think your husband would be open to marriage counseling? If not, maybe you could go to individual counseling? In the meantime, here is an online article that explains emotional abuse: Hopefully you will find it helpful. Also, you may want to check out Leslie Vernick's website: The website has a lot of information and resources on emotionally destructive relationships. Praying for you and your marriage!
Positive: 42.857142857143 %
Answer #8 | 14/01 2014 09:51
You declawed your cats for him? That's awful. Better to give them away than to mutilate feeling animals. "Within the past 48 hours he's also told me that he treats me like garbage because that's what I am.. Garbage. " Well, there you go. You need to put divorce back on the table now.
Positive: 37.5 %

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