How would you feel if your BF sold his car for your engagement ring?

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  • How would you feel if your BF sold his car for your engagement ring?


Answer #1 | 22/12 2013 23:00
I would probably freak out because of the fact that you sold your car. Id feel really bad.
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Answer #2 | 23/12 2013 00:13
Sell the unneeded car, buy her a one-thousand-dollar ring and put the rest of the money into a savings account towards your down-payment for your first house.
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Answer #3 | 23/12 2013 09:12
The problem with questions like this is that what "we" think is irrelevant. Some people would be thrilled by this; others would find it extravagant or like you gave up too much. So what she thinks is all that matters. But none of this is the main issue. If you're truly ready to get engaged, you should already be at the point where you've covered all major life issues, and nothing is bigger than spending priorities, particularly major expenses. I know this sounds unromantic, but it isn't. For many of us, it's the first test of our ability to talk through these things and find a compromise that works for both. The way you describe this, it's a major expense and also a savings issue. She should be part of the decision.
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Answer #4 | 23/12 2013 04:11
If you were going to sell the car anyway, I'd rather you got me a cheaper ring and put some of the money into savings. If you were just doing it for the ring, I'd tell you not to bother. Trading in one luxury for another isn't really much of a sacrifice, even if you're transferring it over to someone else.
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Answer #5 | 23/12 2013 17:34
If this is okay with you, it will be okay with her. However, will it REALLY be okay with you or will you regret trading in your car for a ring and resent it one day? Only you can answer that question. If a man sold his sports car for money to purchase me a ring, I would think he is one serious dude and really does love me and want to marry me, without a question or a doubt. Well, yes, with a question "will you marry me", of course!!
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Answer #6 | 23/12 2013 00:08
I would rather if you sell your car spending at the most 4,000 on a ring and putting the rest in savings
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Answer #7 | 23/12 2013 02:44
If i knew it before all its happening then i never want any type of sacrifice for my engagement ring. if he has enough money to buy a costly ring then its ok otherwise there is no need to sell car. This is my thinking and i know my bf never do this and he absolutely choose the other best way to purchase a costly ring for me by doing some job etc. But in the meantime if such situation would come then he also do as you want to do but i would really hurt because i never want to loss his dreams.
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Answer #8 | 23/12 2013 01:47
If the car is impractical and not used, I'd probably be quietly relieved if you were my boyfriend. If you're a recent college graduate, you need savings more than your girlfriend needs a $9000 ring. Spend $1000-$1500 on a ring and put the rest into savings. Just remember that just because you think it's worth $15,000 doesn't mean that's what you're going to get for it.
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Answer #9 | 23/12 2013 07:51
If the car was legitimately not needed, I'd honestly be a bit relieved that you were willing to sell it and put ANY of that money into savings. I would hope you are putting considerably more of it into savings than you were towards the ring. I know for a fact you can get a nice ring for WELL under the $7000 you plan on spending though... I can't speak for your girlfriend though, idk what she thinks about your car situation
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Answer #10 | 23/12 2013 06:47
It really depends on the situation, your relationship with her, and how much this will affect your life together and your finances. On the one hand, I wouldn't want my husband to give up something he loves simply so I could have a flashy piece of jewelry. He shouldn't have to make that kind of sacrifice. You can absolutely find a lovely engagement ring for much less than $7,000. On the other hand, when you decide you'd like to marry someone, you need to start thinking about the future. Your priorities change. You will have to worry about mortgage/rent, a savings fund, and possibly the expenses related to raising a family. Expensive hobbies are fine if you can afford them, but it'd be pretty irresponsible to keep indulging in such a bobby if it comes at your family's expense. You said you already have an everyday car and you'd be putting some of the profit into savings, which is a wise move. I would just sit down and really think about this. If you love the car and if she supports your hobby, and if you'd be selling it JUST to buy her a ring, I'd re-think it. But if you've decided on your own, "You know what, the car has been fun but it's a bit impractical and I've got other priorities in my life now," then maybe it's time to sell it. From what you've said, it sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders, and maybe it's time to sell the car to someone whose life makes it easier to put the time and money into it.
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