Becoming friends with my fiance's best female friend?

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Answer #1 | 23/12 2013 10:04
Ok i'm going to add this in here. It may be viewed as biased, but this was my expereince. I was with a guy for 6 years and he had several girl best friends he viewed as "sisters" one i was ALWAYS very jealous of (we'll call her May), but she was engaged to his other best friend (we'll call him Jay). One girl lived in mexico with her irch husband, (they were RICH) and the other (Viv) was sorta around but had her own life. we never saw her much because we lived didnt live in owr home town like her and the other two Best friends (the engaged couple) did. well my guy and i started having problems and viv started having problems with her boyfirend, and guess who just had to comfort each other?? but the TWO BEST FRIENDS. yup viv and my EX were "only" together for a month then they got "engaged"because "it just felt right". I quote only because i do not know how long they were dealing behind my back. My opinion: We as Women know we get jealous. Women like to have "the friend zone" guy because they know deep down he will always love her and thats comforting to a selfish women. she can have her fun and come back to feel 'loved' by the friend zone. she wants to "be your friend" so he can stay close to him. and seem like the good guy when you start to get jealous of her. that way she can claim "all i ever wanted to be was nice" and make you look like the bad B word. honestly i think you should have a deep talk with your fiance, If he defends her, you'll never win. A man defends whoever is first in his heart. if he tells you, you are wrong, you'll always be second. thats just my experience.
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Answer #2 | 22/12 2013 07:38
Go with an open mind and meet her. You will be able to tell what kind of chemistry is between them, but only when you are all three in a room together. I agree with the theory of keeping your friends close and your enemies closer - and I will go one step further. In this case, you have to really think about whether they have resolved each of their sides of this (she may have; he may not) and determine whether you are first- or second prize. If things go stale or the tough gets going later - and it will in any new marriage - you have to know if things may change between them. No one goes down the aisle without a trail of something following them - just make sure he isn't denying true feelings for her that may win out. It happens between the best of friends.
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Answer #3 | 22/12 2013 08:48
it sounds to me as if your issue is with your fiance, not this girl. for him to say "not really" when you asked him if he has feelings for her is not a good sign. "no" is the answer you should be looking for to a question like that. "not really" followed by an explaination which sounds as if he would have feelings for her if she would have also felt the same about him and that only the fact that she didn't care for him in that way is stopping him from loving her is not a good sign for your relationship with him. perhaps you should take a moment to rethink this engagement.
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Answer #4 | 22/12 2013 02:52
I don't understand the engagement. If you're engaged to someone you have faith and hope and trust in them and you don't start off with questioning their loyalty to you and asking if they still love someone else. You don't go to meet his friends and family with a chip on your shoulder. If you think he has feelings for her then why are you wearing his ring?
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Answer #5 | 21/12 2013 23:39
Just be careful. I was engaged until last week I found out my fiance cheated on me with MY best friend.
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Answer #6 | 22/12 2013 17:34
Yes, of course it is bad. And petty. And childish However, we ALL would have the same feelings. The REAL question is, YOU have the ring and the date. Why are you jealous of HER??? Does this mean HE should be jealous of all the guys you had before him? Or should he leave your past alone???
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Answer #7 | 22/12 2013 04:30
he wanted to date her, but sounds like she didnt want him she wants to be friends with you as she is friends with him there is no reason to feel weird had they dated or she wanted him then its a bit unhealthy but it isnt she had the chance to date him and she didnt unless you think he still has feelings for her? in which case, its your relationship that is unhealthy not theirs
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Answer #8 | 22/12 2013 12:22
Sounds like the issue is him, not her. He had feelings and wanted to date her, not the other way around. I doubt she'll be jealous at all.
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Answer #9 | 21/12 2013 23:36
Keep your friends close and your enemies closer. The best way to make sure she stays away from your man is for you to be her friend.
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