Am i being selfish or is it ok to not want to get married in a church...?

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  • Am i being selfish or is it ok to not want to get married in a church...?


Answer #1 | 19/12 2013 21:00
You know a church is a perfect setting for a wedding. Maybe be a little more open and check it out. Churches have lots of room for dressing and make up and all the things you do before the ceremony. Everything is right there. As for the religious part well, if you have no religion and mainly want a beautiful setting then check out his church ..not for the religion but for the setting.
Answer #2 | 20/12 2013 01:21
That sounds like my fiancé and I problem he is from a very religious family and I am just like you. The thought of being married in a church isn't appealing to me and I do respect him and his family but a church venue just isn't for me. So we compromised because his family believes that being married in a church is being married under god we discussed it and came up with this. We will not be getting married in a church but we will have a catholic priest marry us instead of a judge or anyone else therefore the priest is so we technically are being married under god ( I dont really understand that because I thought god was everywhere) and the venue is where I want it to be see compromise.this isn't his families wedding and so as long as you and your boyfriend can find middle ground you'll be fine.Also the wedding maybe for both your relatives as well but it is overall the two of you who have to live with the memories Good luck
Answer #3 | 19/12 2013 22:38
What about a religious ceremony in another location ?
Answer #4 | 19/12 2013 21:45
It's your wedding - get married where you wish.
Answer #5 | 19/12 2013 21:02
you dont have to get married in a church...its not even a legal mrrage ...its only legal at a court house when you have to sign the certificate of marriage saying that your legally married....getting married at a church is just to have Jesus Crist being a wetness of you wanting to be together forever.....but anyways, why waist alot of money and alot of time just trying to find a paster that will want to give you both his blessing...churches dont come cheap....just go to a court house or a chapel just pay like $50 and you get married i 10 mintues
Answer #6 | 20/12 2013 06:53
Have you discuss how you are going to raise your children? compromise What about having the wedding and reception at the same place and have a pastor(priest/rabbi) marry you. IF you can not figure out this-you really need to have a talk about the future. What happens if he and the kids are at church every Sunday? If the kids are baptized? If he wants to pray at home? Celebrate Christmas and Easter?
Answer #7 | 20/12 2013 08:03
Please redo your question by spelling out the actual words.
Answer #8 | 22/12 2013 08:56
your hubby to be wants to get married in a church,,why are you not letting him have his way? it is a small issue in the big picture of things you get what you want some times,he gets what he wants sometimes it seems important top his idea of where to get married less valued than his? Samantha,, a catholic priest is not allowed to marry anyone in a different location than a church ,to be recognized by the church. you may need to rethink your plan on this one not saying his is more important,but, just that it would be less painful for you to get married in a church than him to not to. think about it
Answer #9 | 21/12 2013 10:53
This will cause problems in your married life, you both see religion from different angles and even if you don't see it now, it will be difficult in time to come. You need to either agree to get married in Church or he needs to agree to get married in a Registry Office. Perhaps you could compromise by having a Church blessing after a civil ceremony. You really need to iron out these things.
Answer #10 | 21/12 2013 05:24
I believe that your lack of faith and his deep faith may be too much of a difference for you two to have a happy life together. His faith and your lack of faith will come into play in many areas of life that will cause difficulty in compromise. Remember, it would be his wedding also and if he has strong feelings about getting married in a church, should his wishes not be respected also?? I suspect that you two are not meant to be a long-lasting couple
Answer #11 | 20/12 2013 17:12
If you re going to marry him, you both have to find a compromise you can both live with. it is his wedding day, and just as special to him. Maybe you could marry someplace else, but have his pastor do the ceremony so there is aspects of his relgion there

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