advice on what to do sister & husband slept with each other ??

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Answer #1 | 28/12 2013 18:59
Be as normal as possible in front of the kids, this can scar them for life, then, if possible, seek counseling for yourself to help you through this. This must be hard emotionally on you, but you need to be there for your kids. I am so sorry this happened to you, they are wrong and what they did is low. My advice is, be civil and as normal as possible with him in front of the kids.
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Answer #2 | 28/12 2013 19:00
Ya that is really horrible. Obviously I don't know you, or your life, but as I think about it, your children need him. My suggestion is to try to work on it, and except that it happened. Im sure that is really hard. After about a year of being with him and trying to work on it, if things aren't working, then you could consider splitting up. But as much as it hurts, your kids need a father. Hope this helps
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Answer #3 | 28/12 2013 19:31
This can be fixed. First of all it was four years ago. We don't know the details about both sides of the story. Second, people are human and make mistakes. Third, you have a child battling leukemia. What's more important? Petty grievances or being a family and sticking together? Fourth, you don't abandon the ones you love, and love you. You may view this as a betrayal but if it was a one-off, it sounds to me like it was simply a bad decision on both their parts. Fifth, forgiving them and moving forward with your family is much more important than holding on to this. You've got more on your plate than this, and though you feel they acted selfishly and irresponsibly towards you, it appears that your husband wasn't going to leave you or the kids and your sister wasn't going to stop being your sister. Finally, you get stronger from it, not weaker. Arguments and fights are foolish. If something was missing or wrong, or there was a serious issue in your marriage at that time, then it was his responsibility to talk about it with you, and your responsibility to listen and respond. Either one of you or both of you apparently had a major communications failure. There are worse things to happen to a family than this. Trust me and I think you know first-hand anyway. Get counseling for you and your husband and if necessary your family and your sister. But don't let this fester in you. Let it go.
Answer #4 | 28/12 2013 21:01
It happened four years ago, I think you should let it go.
Answer #5 | 28/12 2013 20:30
FOUR years ago. Of course you have a right to be upset. I would be concerned. Unless you are leaving him I say try counseling. But they were both wrong if it was me I just couldn't look at my husband anymore even if I tryed!! But again that's just me
Answer #6 | 05/01 2014 05:36
What had happened, had happened. We can't undo what has been done. Good it was your husband ended it because he loves you and his children, his family. Had it not of this, he would have stayed with your sister. Forget it . Keep it as a part of experience in life. Man doesn't want his mistake to be remembered especially when you have a quarrel. Don't mention anything about it anymore. Observe him. Instead, love him and devote your attention to your child who is sick. Most of all pray and invite him to pray with you. Pray for his guidance, for your child's recovery and for the harmony of your family and for your peace of mind. I understand, life is not so easy for you to handle. You need the Almighty God's blessing. Ask for it, listens you.

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